“Who needs you besides me?!” Phrases that kill relationships. Phrases that kill relationships in the family “Why did you just buy this?”
Never tell him THESE phrases!
One of the main conditions for harmonious relationships is not only love, but also the basic respect of partners for each other, the ability to turn a blind eye to shortcomings, compensating for the weaknesses of the other half with their strengths. This is called an addition, when a man shows wisdom, and a woman broadcasts boundless love. At the same time, it is increasingly possible to observe how families break up, and unjustified hopes serve as the main reason for parting. "That's all he is!" "That's all she is!" So who is really to blame?
In this article, we will consider one of the reasons for the cooling of feelings between partners, namely: the inability of a woman to properly communicate with her man, her pressure on him, which only alienates the spouses from each other, killing love. Why does he seek understanding in the arms of another woman? Why does he move away, or even leave the family altogether? Here are the top 7 phrases that a woman most often broadcasts, unconsciously undermining male self-esteem. Or what not to say to your husband?
1. “Well, I told you!”
When a woman clicks her tongue, rolls her eyes and repeats this phrase for the hundredth time, it’s as if a man is hit on the head with a frying pan. He is not used to giving the palm to someone, and this is good, otherwise you would not have a male, but a mattress in front of you. Remember, the male psyche is arranged differently, in this phrase she catches a threat to her self: “you don’t understand anything”, “you are a fool”, “you are never right”. Rather than hitting a sore spot, it’s better to reformulate: “Don’t be upset, another time we will succeed, I know you!” This will inspire the man to go further by listening to your advice.
2. "Step back, I'd better do it myself!"
A simple way to discourage a man from doing something is to say the magic "I myself." If you didn't know, men feel pleasure when they are needed, when they are useful, and the results of their achievements are admired. Rather than rushing to do everything yourself, give your chosen one at least a chance to delight you, to feel strong and courageous in your eyes. Just trust him with a hammer, finally, and do not forget to clap your eyes in admiration.
3. “And why did I marry you?”
The moment you question your marriage, start feeling sorry for yourself and lament about “what did mom tell me,” you give a man a reason to feel unwanted and inadequate. And what could be more painful for him than disappointment in the eyes of his beloved woman? Remember, at one time you chose the best man, and he became “not like that” precisely under your leadership. Both partners are responsible for the development of the family, do not put all the blame on the spouse, stand by and solve problems together.
4. “Your friend is already a director, and you…”
If you want to get a man to take action, then comparison tactics are the worst way to get him to change. Apply it to yourself, how would you feel if your husband compared you to more successful women? Do you want him to earn more? Just tell him about it. Do you want a new coat? Do not start with hints about a friend and her boyfriend, speak directly. This will inspire him to think about where to make money, and not worry about his insolvency.
5. "Why did you just buy this?"
Instead of criticizing your husband for the wrong choice of purchases, next time go together and show what exactly you want. Otherwise, you run the risk of discouraging a man from engaging in this area of domestic obligations altogether. Men do not attach importance to details, for them the main goal is to buy, and this is the whole difference. The same applies to gifts. You should not be angry that he lowered the entire budget or got into debt for you, otherwise you will not wait for a seedy rose in the future. Thank him, admire the new clothes, but next time state your own preferences out loud.
6. "You looked at her, who is she?"
Jealousy sooner or later corrodes any relationship. First, you look for a catch in everything, blaming your man for what he not only didn’t do, but didn’t even think about. And then he gets tired of making excuses and listening to your tantrums, which he did not give a reason for. At some point, he will really start looking for another woman. How to be? Work with yourself, your self-esteem and fears, make an appointment with a psychologist or talk with a heart-to-heart partner, seeking consensus. Otherwise, you risk getting what you were so afraid of.
7. “It's all you! Everything is so bad because of you"
Relationships are built by two, and therefore it is impossible to shift all the blame on the shoulders of one partner. As soon as problems arise, you need to look them in the eye without fear, share responsibility, and not just look for the extreme to your failures and unfulfillment. If something does not suit you, think about what caused this, why did you choose a partner with such qualities? Remember, everything can change if you stop blaming your soul mate and start looking for a solution together.
Don't let your man feel unloved or worthless around you. Either learn to solve problems together, or step aside, just don't stop him from showing his best qualities.
In this helpful article, you will learn about how to humiliate a person with clever words without using fists.
It is a sin to offend a good person, remember this.
For any humiliation of the innocent, you will have to pay the penalty from above.
But there are cases when you are smeared on the wall, uttering phrases of obscene content.
Of course, you can answer the offender in the same way or hit in the teeth with all your might.
But this is not a very delicate method, my friends.
It is much more difficult to humiliate a person without putting him on his shoulder blades, but by choosing such phrases that they destroy him in a moral sense.
That's what we're going to do.
Phrases that humiliate a person for insulting dignity
If your dignity has been questioned - no matter who you are - a man or a woman, try to answer with these phraseological units:
1). Only a moral impotent or a creature lowered by life can offend a woman.
2). You are now throwing insults because you stubbornly hide your own inadequacy.
3). My dignity is not at its height, but it is not at the bottom either. And you give out in yourself a weak and morally wretched person.
4). Your insults sound like a helpless attempt to prove your superiority.
With these phrases you humiliate a person carefully and delicately. Intelligently lowering it, you yourself do not become like an evil offender.
Phrases that morally kill a person for humiliation
I want to warn you right away that they should be used with great caution. The thing is that you are endowed with the ability to program a person for negative consequences. His payment for the offense caused to you will be an unfavorable event that will occur in close connection with the verbal “prophecy”.
Not quite clear?
Now you will understand everything.
Examples of phrases that morally kill and fatally program the offender for “eternal memory”:
5). I won't answer you. But then you will understand that you have accumulated all the misfortunes from that day on.
6). The queue to the oncologist is very long, and you will be at the end. (Say these words only in case of severe humiliation.)
7). You have to pay for everything in this life. Do not forget this day, so that later you do not think about what God punished you for.
8). From this moment on, misfortune will begin in your life. I'm not afraid, but I know about it.
With a little fantasizing, you can pretty much supplement the proposed list.
Just do not go too far and do not program a good person for bad fatalism.
It is quite possible that you were humiliated by a rather hypochondriac and weak personality, which will begin to fade away after all that has been said.
Now you know about how to morally humiliate a person with clever phrases.
And do not forget yourself that you will have to pay for a word as well as for a bad deed.
Men, just like women, are susceptible to flattery and compliments. But there are statements that can "offend" not only men's ears, but also strike at the soul.
"You're just like my ex!"
Statement number 1, which refers to the taboo in communicating with men. Remember never, even mentally, and even more so, out loud, don't compare your men. You will deal a blow to male ego. Of course, if you intend to leave, then this
The right way. Even if you just met, you should not tell your new chosen one that you broke up amicably with your ex. This is a challenge to your current companion, he will think that you have challenged him. If the previous one was so good, then the present one has yet to grow and grow before it.
Moreover, if you accused the previous one of all “mortal sins”, then now the benefit of such a comparative analysis will be negative. Your man will not change in front of your eyes and will not ask you for forgiveness. Most likely, the man will look for a way to break free and forget about you like a terrible nightmare.
“Your mom doesn’t know how to cook borscht (soup, etc. on the topic of cooking)!”
Not a single negative review, complete taboo! Even if his mother’s borscht cannot be smelled, it tastes like slop. Smile, admire her culinary skills, and ask for recipes for these "wonderful" dishes. No one will force you to reproduce after all the culinary recipes of your mother-in-law. When you get home, drink activated charcoal and cook your signature dish.
"Your friend drives a cool car!"
How will your partner perceive this statement:
Option 1: "She thinks I'm a loser - because my car no longer suits her."
Option 2: "Did she fall in love with him?".
Option 3: “If so, let him go!”
Did you achieve exactly this result?
“I want to be like Tatyana, Sveta (etc. list the names of your girlfriends)!”
And you thought that, most likely, he would take a closer look at your "idol"? Well, if they turn out to be an inaccessible image of a film star or pop star. But if you point to a specific object, which is your best friend, then you will create problems for yourself. After all, she might like him.
"Your salary is low!"
Under no circumstances develop an inferiority complex in a man. Not in any area of life. He is able to earn exactly as much as he can. If you do not have enough, then why did you connect your future with it? Start earning yourself. The times when a woman lived at the expense of a man have sunk into oblivion, now women are able to earn on an equal footing or more than men. Such phrases about the lack of money can push a man to rash and sometimes illegal actions, of course, if he is not a complete parasite and lazy person.
“This thing costs $400!”
Take care of the nerves of your men. It is better to indicate the cost in national currency. In our economically turbulent time, there are few men who are ready to take the price of a “rag” calmly, which will be equal to the average salary of a resident from an ordinary region.
Read them, memorize them, and try never to say that. Unless, of course, you want the relationship to actually end.
“YOU ALWAYS SCATTER YOUR SOCKS IN THE CORNERS. HOW LONG WILL I COLLECT THEM, huh?”
The point here, of course, is not in socks - this is just an example. The essence of the conflict can be anything, the main thing is the phrases “You always ...”, “You never ...” and “You always” and the intonation with which they are pronounced. Usually this is a grumpy tone that no one wants to listen to, but this is not so bad: when you say in this tone: “You are always ...” - you frankly attack and force your partner to defend themselves. No one wants to be on the defensive in a relationship. Sooner or later, your darling will get tired of the attacks and leave.
“I DO NOT HAVE TO ACCOUNT TO YOU!”
Of course you don't have to, it's true. But a phrase built this way will make your man feel like your relationship is already over.
"YOU ARE A LOVERSHIP"
Or a bad father. Or a bad husband. What is dangerous in this phrase? The fact that you wanted to express your attitude to his actions, but instead insulted him. Husband, father, lover - these are all roles with which a man identifies himself, they cannot be considered separately from his personality. And this means that you severely offended him.
"How much can you worry about nonsense?"
Devaluation of the experiences of a partner is the first step towards parting. And instead of doing this very devaluation, try to figure out why he really worries so much? Talk to him about it. You are different people, and it is quite natural that your views on the same problem may not coincide. But if you don't take your partner's feelings into account, the relationship won't last long.
"YOU'RE BEHAVE LIKE YOUR FATHER!"
It is understood that the behavior of his father revolts you, of course, and the son, look, behaves the same way! Stop. You are now invading forbidden territory. Children love their parents in any way, that's how they are arranged. Later, growing up, we understand that parents have shortcomings, we can quarrel with them or stop communicating altogether, but this issue still concerns only two: the child and his parent. You can say this phrase only in one case: if you want to praise your man.
"YOU SHOULD NOT THINK/ACT/SAY THIS"
With this phrase, you simply humiliate your sweetheart, putting him in the position of an unreasonable child who must first of all obey his strict mother. That is you. But in fact, you have no right to direct his thoughts, feelings or actions. You can express your attitude towards them - it's true. But "You mustn't..." is a prohibition. You cannot forbid him anything, unless, of course, you want him to run away from you.
"IF YOU WERE NORMAL, I WOULD NOT SCREAM AT YOU!"
Combo! Double punch! Firstly, you shift the blame for what happened to him, and secondly, the responsibility for your behavior. And if in the first case you can be right, and he is really to blame, then in the second - sorry: you and only you are responsible for your reactions. Yelling at him or not yelling is your choice. He understands this, and therefore the only possible continuation of this situation is a scandal.
"DO YOU THINK YOU'RE THE SMARTEST HERE?"
Worse than this phrase can only be the same phrase spoken in the presence of strangers. You already let him know that you doubt his viability, but he can swallow it (with a scandal, of course) in private. In public - never. However, you would not forgive him for public humiliation, right?
"WHY CAN'T YOU BE LIKE…"
Like Vasya, for example. Vasya is smart, pumped up and makes good money. There is only one caveat: your darling is not Vasya. And he does not aspire to become one at all. He doesn't ask you why you don't look like a young Belucci, does he? Here's the same thing.
"DO WHAT YOU WANT, I DO NOT CARE"
Even if at the moment you really do not care, you should not scatter such phrases. Indifference to our feelings is the very point of no return, the very moment that we will never forgive a loved one. Because if he doesn't care, you can't fix anything, it's obvious. So take a deep breath, think, and say something along the lines of "Let's discuss this tomorrow." Because you're really just tired of having a hard conversation, right? But that doesn't mean you really don't care. And if you really don't care, it's more honest to say, "Let's break up."
In a conversation in a company, before you tell a funny story, you make a reservation: "I'm not very good at telling jokes, but listen"? Not surprisingly, few people around you will continue to listen to you carefully. In situations where it is better not to say anything at all, but immediately start telling a joke. Another option is to outline in advance the positive framework of what you are going to talk about: “This story will now be on topic!” or “Oh, the situation is exactly like in that joke!”, then others will focus on the meaning of your words, and not on the skill of public speaking in the stand-up genre.
2 You never/you always...!
When you try to reproach a friend or husband for what you think is always doing the way you would not like, do not use this hackneyed wording. "You never listen to me! You always do the same thing when I ask you for help!",- that's what you want to say in a fit of anger, but you shouldn't do it. Because, firstly, it makes your interlocutor "close" and build a defensive reaction. And, secondly, often, your categorical “always!” it's just "sometimes". Better articulate your dissatisfaction with safe design “when you do…, I feel like…”.
3 Not at all!
You are asked for help and. And then, when you are sincerely and wholeheartedly thanked, you get off with a modest "My pleasure!". This is not worth doing, because often your modesty is perceived as the fact that this help did not cost you anything at all, and you do not value your own time and effort that you spent on a friend or buddy. Instead, say: "Always happy to help you!", - and this will increase the significance of your efforts in the eyes of the interlocutor.
